Hi, my name is Aisyah Rozi. This is my personal blog where I share my life experience, thoughts, ideas and occasionally, my projects. Recently, however, I share a lot about being a young mother. I'm also a YouTuber, so do checkout my channel! <3

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The one on the left, [crying] is Arina.

The one on the right is her older sister.

Arina  was crying her heart out, obviously duhh.

Notice her sister’s smile.

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and yes, the sister is ME.

he he he…

We used to fight a lot, my sister and I, ever since she was born. We fought over everything. and I mean, EVERYLITTLETHINGYOUCOULDPOSSIBLYTHINKOF. But when we reached mid teenager, we fought gradually less and became really close.

Oh, I guess I’m missing her right now. Haven’t had quality time with her for quite a while. We’re both been busy. Well, especially her.

Miss you lah daketokna. Later I belanja you something k? If I have extra money laa hahaha

Reasons I (and you too) should exercise.

I was feeling a lil’ fat today after all that Pizza yesterday and McD for lunch today. So, I decided that it’s time to get back on track before I completely lost myself. It wasn’t really about losing weight, be skinny yada-yada, (omg, surprise, surprise, I know right!) hahaha but it’s more about getting fit, being healthy and feel good about yourself.

I remember back then when I was active hitting the gym, I was a lot happier. I only lost like 2 kg before I stop losing weight cause I’ve already achieved my ideal weight. I turned my fat into muscles, try to balance out the cardio and resistant training. So, I got fitter, and more toned body.

After my membership ended and I didn’t have the moolah to continue, my exercise stopped altogether, unfortunately. It didn’t only affect my eating lifestyle (because I don’t feel I’m doing anything for my health), but it also affected my alertness, and in return, I have a hard time focussing on my studies because I pretty much felt like I was drained most of the time. I also felt down because I know my fitness level wasn’t as good as it was and that kinda upset myself. Kinda like a self-pride thing, as I was an athlete (way) back in school.

With the guilt of taking my health for granted, I started to exercise tonight. I did some cardio warm up and some resistence to start off. Just light exercises but I can see how much my fitness level has deteriorated . I was doing weights and I could hardly lift the 10kg block. Last time, I’d do 20kg block. I also did some pushups, bicep curls and sit ups. Tomorrow, I’ll most likely run on treadmill and some intense stretches for flexibility. Flexibility is great cause it doesnt only help you perform better, but it also helps to burn those fat faster.

So, that said, there are a lot of benefits of exercising, whether you’re trying to improve your sleep cycle, increase your metabolism, relax your mind, and stuffs like that. For those of you who don’t exercise whether you’re ideal or overweight, you should really try it and see the difference. Plus, exercise is also great when you need to take your mind off something, like your work, studies, your girl problem, man problem, or even if your man decided to keep a mustache or obsessed with HTC. oopss hahahaha.

Engaged!

The engagement ceremony went well yesterday, despite the chaos that happened that morning and my friend, Asma who was supposed to do my makeup overslept and came half and hour late. Hahah. The guy’s side came at exactly 11 am and waited for a few minutes outside of the house before coming in. I was still rushing to get my tudung la whatever together and came down only to get immediately pulled into the room that was decorated (?).

I also had my cousin to take the pictures, and he’s no photographer, so,  pardon the quality.

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Eddie's family, upon entering the house. His mum looks so cheerful. hehe

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Eddie and his uncle. I think he wanted to just wait outside while the discussion was going on but I'm not sure who asked him to come in. and oh, thank god he shaved his mustache! hahahaha!

They first discussed about the mas kahwin, hantaran (if any) and also the date of the wedding. They also discussed about the terms and agreements about the engagement and if, god forbid, the engagement is broken.  So, the wedding date is gonna be on 16.7.11, insyaAllah. After that, it was time for the girl (me, ehem) to receive the ring as a symbol of agreement.

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Eddie's mum, putting the ring on me. I was so nervous if the ring wont fit cause I gained some weight. Hahah.

4At this time, I couldn’t hold my laughter because my stupid awning bumped into her hands. It was so embarrasing but, oh well, what can I do. I’m not used to having awning over my head. hahahaha.

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Malay Engagement Tradition

The Malays have a lot of traditions. And one of it being wedding traditions. They are so many traditions, events whatsoever. Part of wedding tradition is the engagement tradition. Unlike the kneel-on-one-knee proposal, the Malay engagement is very much different. There’s a ceremony.

Now, let me clarify that I am not a fan of traditions. I couldn’t care less about the traditions if its nothing related to the requirements of Islam. In Islam, when the guy or the woman agrees when asked to be married, then they’re engaged. So, there are actually people who get engaged without knowing. You can dig more about this yourself.

So, what happens in Malay engagement ceremony? From what I’ve been told, it sounds like a very awkward ceremony, pardon me. The guy’s family and relatives come to the girl’s house where they will have representatives to talk on behalf of each other’s family. This will usually be the uncle or a family friend/ dad’s friend. They are then set the date, the hantaran and mahar. Hantaran is the amount of money for the guy to give to the girl’s family to support the wedding and mahar is the amount of money for the future bride to keep. Mahar is a requirement in Islam, while hantaran is just a tradition. Hantaran is usually at least RM5000 now. Back then, it used to be atleast RM1000. Mahar min is according to states and for Selangor, it’s RM300 which is not a burden at all for most people. Anyway, them talking about the amount of money is already awkward enough.

Then, the girl. The girl will sit at a corner, or a center or in a room where she’ll have a nicely decorated mini dais to sit on, alone obviously. And awkward. I’m not sure what’s the purpose of this but I think it’s pretty much related to the hantaran (gifts) for the engagement. As if we can’t put the gifts on a table. Maybe they want to emphasize that the girl is actually receiving/accepting the gifts? I don’t know. I understand it’s somekind of appreciation for the girl, but let’s face it. It’s not the guy’s side who’s doing the mini dais thing. And if they really want to show that they appreciate the gifts, the girl’s side is already giving back an extra two gifts. and there’s food and warm welcoming. It’s not that I’m a cheapskate but isn’t that already loud and clear? While I perfectly understand the girl wanting to look pretty and all, I don’t understand the girl’s overdressing to an extend it looks like it’s for solemnization. I mean, she’s a future bride for god’s sake not a bride!

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